Dear Middle School Girl,
I want to remind and encourage you: you are never alone. It is hard being a girl and ever harder to be a middle schooler, but do not lose sight of the future: this is only a phase. I work with you, I see you on campus, and I observe you at church, I understand that the dream is to be well liked and have a million friends and God did create us to be relational beings. However, the quality of your friends is more important than the quantity.
As I look to you and see the trials and temptations that you are going through, remember:
- Stay in the Word. If you are not focusing on the love and mercy and peace of Jesus Christ, these years are going to be incredibly difficult. This is not an easy lesson to learn. You will continue to grow each and every day of your life. Continue to read the Bible on a regular basis and turn to Jesus Whatever your input is will affect your output.
- Don’t worry about what you look like. Everyone goes through those “awkward years,” so you might as well rock them and have fun in the process!
- Your parents are probably the smartest and wisest people you’ll ever meet. Let them give you advice, talk to them about anything and everything, and show them just how much you appreciate all they do for you.
- Make-up is gross. Own your natural beauty and be proud of the person God made you to be.
- Make memories with your family because soon you’ll move away to college and miss them like crazy…trust me on this one.
- Don’t compare yourself to those around you. We are all made in the image of God and are unique and wonderful in our own special way. BE YOU.
- Bond with your mom. I get it, sometimes mothers and daughters butt heads, but seriously, no one knows you like your mom. She has been and will always be there for you, and she gets everything you’re facing, let her help you out.
- Don’t give in to peer pressure and it’s cooler to be different. Stand up for what you know to be right!
- Your closest friends will always be there for you in the good times and the bad. Those who only want to attend the party won’t help with the clean up.
- Focus on who you are in Jesus. Your identity is in Christ, not in your grades, your family, your extracurricular activities, or your abilities, but in who Jesus is.
- Guys make great friends. Don’t let the awkward crush phase ruin it.
- Learn to be truthful, honorable, just, pure, lovely, commendable, and excellent. Use these attributes as a way to determine your actions, your friends, and your media.
When I was in middle school, there was no Snapchat or Instagram and Facebook was barely a thing. If I wanted to talk to my friends, I had to send them an email on my first generation iPod. I can’t pretend to understand how much social media takes a toll on you, but I want to remind you that you are beautiful. The amount of likes you got on your last filtered selfie is not an accurate representation of your true beauty. The ever-so-famous quote, “Beauty is in the eye of the beholder” could not be further from the truth. The people that surround you do not understand how you think or know your true self. Focus on your relationship with Jesus and the rest will fall into place. He has the best plan for your life, as He knows the ending to your magnificent story.
I am praying for you.
He has made everything beautiful in its time. He has also set eternity in the human heart, yet no one can fathom what God has done from beginning to end.